How Coronavirus Is Impacting Mental Health

Today I had nearly 10 phone calls from individuals seeking counseling to support with the impact of the Coronavirus (COVID-19). The common factor impacting everyone was accessibility. During each phone call, a person would request to have counseling online for the time being.

Typically, this is not an issue. Santos Counseling PLLC, since day one of operation has always provided counseling in the office and through teletherapy (online therapy). 

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How Online Counseling Helps Couples

Have you ever wondered why you can’t have a happy relationship?

 

You walk down the street, and see happy couples passing you. As each couple passes you wonder, why not me.

As a relationship counselor, I want to share with you that you can have the relationship you deserve. You can shift your mindset and transform the relationship and life that you have.

One of the key reasons that couples struggle to have a happy and successful relationship is because of focusing too much on the problems.

  • There are 24 hours in a day.

If the majority of the hours are consumed with problems, then your mood will be impacted. More than likely when you are in the midst of problems, you’ll notice that your stress is high. That you are depressed, anxious, or simply not feeling stable and happy.

On the other hand, when you are NOT focused on the problem, you are focused on other things. You are focused on living your life, going on dates, and having fun.

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Understanding Why The Affair Took Place

Healing After An Affair Requires People To Understand What Led To The Affair

Marriage Counseling can provide couples with space and direction needed to work towards understanding the key reasons why the affair took place.

In a prior post, How To Navigate And Heal After An Affair, the foundation to stage 1 was discussed. The purpose of knowing the stages is to give you steps to take as you move forward in your journey of healing and recovering your relationship and life after an affair.

A few very important notions to understand is that each couple is different with respect to how long the process takes. The second very important notion that helps is receiving information ahead of time. This gives a sense of understanding, preparation, and anticipation of what may take place during the affair recovery process.

Stage 1. Discovery Of Infidelity.

Whether the discovery was forthcoming or found. The first stage of recovering after an affair starts with the discovery.

This stage focuses on ending the affair and learning what happened. It is vital to the success of healing and recovering for you who committed the affair to cut all ties and commit to vulnerability, honesty, transparency, and positive change.

Not doing so only leads to further distrust and disconnect from your partner. During this stage, you may experience shock and emotional instability.

Uncovering and Navigating The Discovery of Infidelity.

Understanding as best as you can why you did what you did is very important for the process of healing and recovering and in addition to personal growth.

Below are common connections to affairs. To why affairs take place. Evaluate each one while working to find a connection.

  • Emotional needs aren’t being met.
  • Sexual addiction.
  • Struggle with boredom.
  • Seeking revenge sex.
  • Seeking reassurance or emotional security.
  • History of infidelity in past relationships.
  • Life changes.

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