Are you familiar with how to go from stuck to deeply connected in your relationship?
I want to share with you 10 different ways that you can strengthen your relationship without feeling overwhelmed. Before getting started, take time to pace yourself. Instead of doing all of the exercises below on the same day, consider doing one for 7 days. As you tackle each strategy evaluate its effectiveness. After 7 days shift to the next strategy and move forward using the system.
1. Practice daily kindness.
Each day you have the opportunity to improve or hurt your relationship. One simple way to improve or nurture your relationship is by sprinkling acts of kindness.
Examples of acts of kindness can include:
- Writing a love note.
- Cleaning the house.
- Cleaning the car.
- Doing the laundry.
- Providing a foot massage.
2. Schedule money meeting dates.
Each month take time to explore questions connected to money. The goal is to give each other space to evaluate how money impacts the relationship.
Questions to explore include:
How do you feel about debt?
How do you feel about money and risks? Such as, taking a risk in purchasing a rental property with the goal of someday creating passive income. The risk would be in taking out a loan for the rental property or using a chunk of your saved cash to get you started.
Who will manage the money in the relationship? One person or both?
What are your yearly financial goals?
Are you aware of money expectations? Such as goals connected to money.
How will you handle money when it comes to external factors such as supporting relatives or kids? Think about how you will handle if relative requests money. Or if your 10-year child desires allowance.
Working with a counselor is a great way to navigate the questions above.
3. Practice weekly deep conversations.
Most couples often seek marriage counseling due to communication problems. Not hearing each other, struggling to understand each or just an overall difference that leads to conflict. Relationships are built on two core avenues verbal and nonverbal language.
Below are questions to explore together aimed at helping you develop a deep emotional connection.
- If you were someone famous, who would it be?
- What would constitute a perfect day?
- What is your biggest fear?
- If you could have one superpower to help humanity what would it be?
- What have you accomplished in your life with the support of your partner?
- What is your most treasured memory?
- What do you value about relationships?
4. Focus on understanding versus solution.
People often push for identifying solutions when in conflict and skip right past the core areas of understanding. Next time you find yourself in conflict consider practicing the following: Schedule a time to go over the issue. When someone has an issue with their teeth. They take time to schedule a dental appointment. Managing conflict in relationships is no different.
5. Practice touch.
From the moment a person comes into the world, touch becomes a form of attachment and connection. In your relationship when appropriate, practice touching in the form of:
- Giving each other massages.
- Holding hugs for longer than the typical brief moment.
- Engaging in exploratory questions during sexually intimate moments.
6. Practice actions.
One way of improving your relationship is by considering what actions you can engage in that support the relationship. For instance, after dinner stands up and take on the task of washing the dishes. In the morning, be the person that brings the coffee or makes the bed. This strategy requires no words and nudges the person to engage in actions that improve the relationship.
See the video below to learn how to improve your relationship without saying a word.
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