Ways To Improve Your Relationship

Before you start reading all about ways to improve your relationship, I want to share this with you. To have a healthy relationship a person must be willing to pull their sleeves up and get to work. Because there are two people in the relationship, this means both parties will be getting to work.

This is by no means is a complex message.

Consider your job.

You have a job, and you desire good pay, strong benefits, and to be treated with respect and kindness. Right… You must beyond anything else show up and do your work to achieve the pay you are searching for. To achieve the benefits and opportunities you desire. To gain the respect and support you yearn for.

The moment you hold back. The moment you decide to NOT show up at work. To stop being proactive. To stop practicing respect and living with integrity. Something happens.

Nothing complex.

In actuality, it’s very simple.

Things go to shit.

Don’t allow your relationship to go to shit.

 

Below are creative ways to improve your relationship. Some of the strategies below may be exactly what you are searching for, while others can come in handy during specific situations.

22 Creative Ways to Improve Your Relationship:

 

1. Simple Actions Create Transformation.

Practice saying thank you, you are welcome, and I’m sorry. Look, I get that this is a very simple strategy. It’s often the simple steps that people skip. From the moment we enter this world we are encouraged to practice saying thank you, showing kindness, and providing an apology when needed.

If you are still on edge and not sure if this will work, try it out. For the next 7 days, say thank you more often. Something this simple can go a long way. Below are examples that you can play with.

• Thank you for helping me.
• I really appreciate you listening to me.
• Thank you for taking the time to call me back.
• I know you aren’t a fan of this, and for that, I want to thank you for being here with me.

 

2. Support Your Partner’s Core Values.

People often live life happy when they know and live by their core values. Consider what your core values are. If possible, give yourself a few days to ponder on the topic. When ready share the core values with your partner and open the door for conversation. Ask questions, such as why is this core value important to you?

Next, take time to identify how you can support your partner in living by their core values. For instance, if my core value is wellness and this takes place in the form of going to the gym. I can share this with my partner who can support me.

Over time you will notice that your relationship will receive nurture. You’ll feel closer connected to your partner.  For more support on developing values, check out this article by clicking here. It focuses on the importance of having values in your life and relationship.

 

3. Thoughts Have Power.

A bad thought can lead a person to more than just experiencing the bad thought. The negative or bad thoughts can grow and cause the person to feel sluggish, irritable, or on edge. The feelings can then lead the person to shift their behavior by becoming distant or silent.

It’s up to us to practice accountability and ownership over the thoughts that linger in our minds. Yes, we will have worried thoughts. Yes, we will experience negative thoughts. At the same time, we have the power to be present and show up for ourselves by practicing positive thoughts.

A simple way to utilize the power of thoughts to strengthen your relationship is by practicing thoughts that connect to trust. Add a reminder to your phone that tells you to focus on reasons that you trust your partner.

Schedule the reminder to go off daily 3 times. In the morning, around lunch, and in the afternoon. When the alarm goes off, think to yourself.

• Why do I trust my partner?
• How is trust being built in my relationship?
• How does my partner show up for me in a way that nurtures trust?

 

4. Adding In What Serves You.

I have a question for you…

• What in your life serves you?

This is meant to be one of those deep thought questions. A question that pushes you to stop, think, and process.

Consider everything that you are adding to your life. From the food, you take consume to the thoughts that you have. The purpose of this activity is to give you more ownership over your life. At the end of the day, you are the decision-maker.

The goal for this activity is simple:

• Try to remove what isn’t serving you.
• Try to sustain what is serving you.
• Try to add what can serve you.

For instance, I can remove the habit of going from session to session with clients without a break. I can add in, a 5-minute break in-between my sessions. Very simple. I can sustain it by praising myself or sharing it with peers. A simple shift like this can at the end of the workday, reduce stress and lead to a better me.

This in turn improves my relationship because I am showing up as my best version. I am showing up as my best version because I am taking ownership by adding into my life what serves me and removing what doesn’t. Another simple activity to add in is an activity of its own. Such as adding in yoga to your routine. Together as a couple, engage in yoga. Have fun while growing together.

 

5. Dive Deep Into Conversations.

A large percentage of people that reach out for couples counseling do so due to struggling with communication. At the end of the day, communication is a core pillar in establishing a healthy relationship.

I want to share with you a simple process that you can take to support in nurturing your relationship. The first step is to establish a structure for the activity.

Once a week schedule a 15-minute meeting. During the meeting, the main focus is to give each other time, to be present, to remove distractions, and practice kindness and mutual respect, and be consistent.

Questions that you can explore include but not limited to:

• What is your favorite childhood memory? And why.
• What is your bucket list? And why did you select the items?
• Are you happy with the emotional connection in the relationship? If so or if not, share why.
• How do you remember feeling when you first started to date your partner?
• Do you feel the same now towards your partner as you did at the beginning of the relationship?

 

6. Dig Into Personality Types. 

Have you ever considered how your personality impacts the relationship?

In case you haven’t, I want to encourage you to take a moment to read over this section. I believe that you’ll be able to gain a few gold nuggets.

Not too long ago, I worked with a couple. The guy shared with me that he didn’t share “X” with his partner because he didn’t like confrontation. I asked a few follow-up questions regarding confrontation.

We ended up finding out that he was an introvert, struggled with assertive communication, and avoided away confrontation. In essence, this was a process of uncovering his personality.

I asked if he interacted with others outside of his partner in the same way. The answer was yes.

From this point, the issue was not the issue that took place in the relationship. The issue to address was that of understanding how personality influenced thoughts and behaviors.

We worked together to dig into personality type while engaging in exercises that work to support strengthening the skill of assertive communication, being open to confronting topics, and increasing proactivity to share thoughts and feelings.

In your relationship, consider taking a personality assessment or simply talking about your personality type.

 

7. Add-In Positivity.

I have a question for you.

• How much positivity do you pour into your partner?

I hope that the answer is endless or something like you are making it rain positivity on them.

Most people feel better when they are supported or given some sort of positive variable. For instance, if your employer stops by your desks and shares with you how happy they are with you. Or if your spouse leaves you a note. The note shares 10 things that they love about you and number 10 is an act of kindness where they cleaned your car for you. More than likely you would feel good, correct?

When people give us positivity, we in turn feel better.

Moving forward consider trying something out. For the next 7 days, pour positivity into the life of your partner.

Not sure what positivity is. That’s okay.

Ask your partner what it would look like for them to receive positivity.

Ways to pour positivity into your partner:

• Engage in daily acts of kindness such as cleaning the house or doing the laundry.
• Praise your partner.
• Share gratitude.
• Support your partner with their goals.
• Help your partner with self-care.

 

8. Address Problems Effectively.

When people experience problems their tends to be a tendency of fixation or stewing. In some ways, this behavior is very common among most people.

A creative way to positively transform your relationship is by not fixating on the problems. Trust me, I completely understand why you may not be a fan of this strategy. If possible, I’d like to encourage you to try it out. Just to see if it works.

Here is a simple way to try it out.

Find a jar in your house and label it with, problems that we will address and heal from.

Every time you have a problem in your relationship, write it down on a sheet of paper and put it in the bottle. After, go back to your relationship with the attitude of adding to it what serves it. When you return to the relationship the mindset is to nurture it, to have fun, to date, and to simply do your best to be present with each other.

You are probably wondering, what about that jar.

You’ve probably been to a dentist appointment or to get your oil change. The average person addresses the issue. Whether it be an oil change or addressing a dental issue you probably would wait.

So, the magic question is when to empty the jar.

At the end of the month, pull one random item from the jar with the goal not of solving it. Instead, of giving space to understanding. During this process, the goal is to listen without interrupting. To validate each other. To share your thoughts, feelings, and concerns regarding the issue. To provide kindness and compassion. To find healing and continue to be present with each other.

9. Individual Work Nurtures Relationships.

I once read a book and found myself highlighting the words, enter your relationship whole. I read it over and over. Thinking to myself what was being said here. I found myself coming to a conclusion that connects to my viewpoint. We are a working masterpiece. I believe that we enter this life as our best version and with each breath of air, we work to continue to grow, heal, and recover based on our journey.

When working with couples, I often find that around 75% of the issues are connected to the individual and not the couple. For instance, if a person enters a relationship with a history of wounds that connect to trust issues. Wounds that were developed during childhood. The person may find themselves in a relationship where they seek constant validation or insist that their partner spend large amounts of time with them. The issue may filter to the partner when the partner finds themselves racing home because they don’t want their spouse to feel alone.

Though two people come together to provide each other with love, there must be the conversation of personal growth, healing, and recovery.

To build a healthy relationship, we must take time to build and sustain a healthy self.

Moving forward, consider shifting your focus on building and sustaining yourself. Ways to work on yourself including but not limited to:

• Seeking support from a counselor.
• Using a journal to write personal and reflect on personal thoughts.
• Practice daily self-care.
• Practice daily self-love.
• Having a support system that shows up for you as you show up for them.
• Pouring positivity in your life as you do others.

 

10. Define and Practice Boundaries.

What are my boundaries?

Now that is a question that deserves time and energy.

Boundaries are what we allow into our life or in this case the relationship. Think about this as an example.

Bob decides to go out with his friends after work for some beers at a local pub. Sitting with him are his co-workers. Some of the same sex and others of the opposite sex. For some time, Bob has felt that Sarah, his co-worker, has had a crush on him. For months she has asked him to lunch or has randomly stopped by his desk. At the bar, Bob along with his co-workers engage in friendly conversation followed by a few too many drinks. Next thing you know, Bob and Sarah kiss. Bob quickly leaves the scene and goes home.

The story above is short and only has a handful of details. The key points that I want to pull from the mini-story are those that connect to boundaries.

We know that Bob was aware of Sarah’s crush and he still decided to go out for drinks together. We can make the educated assumption that Bob is aware of the impact of alcohol. Such as that in alcohol impacting decision-making skills.

The boundaries that were hurt took place when Bob went to lunch with a co-worker who was interested in him and also engaged in drinking. Again, a core element of a boundary is focused on what you allow into your life.

Such as allowing in what serves you and closing the doors to what doesn’t.

The decision of saying no to lunch and not having the drink would have led to the situation not taking place.

Another common boundary is that of physical boundaries. Let’s take a person who doesn’t feel comfortable with a public display of affection. For instance, they do not enjoy nor feel comfortable with making out in public. On the other hand, their partner doesn’t mind.

It is important for the person that doesn’t feel comfortable to practice vulnerability and share why they don’t feel comfortable to set a clear boundary. At the same time, it’s vital for their partner to not shame them on the boundary and instead find a different space to connect physically.

As an activity, take 15 minutes to connect with your partner on boundaries. The work you do here will directly nurture the health of the relationship.

 

11. Focus on what’s working.

I remember watching a funny tv show and the person said, we got all problems. I had a quick laugh and thought to myself. How interesting is it that at times I focus more on the problems than on what’s working?

Most couples seek counseling or relationship coaching when they are experiencing problems in the relationship. A couple may seek counseling after years of struggle with communication while another couple may see it because of a recent traumatic incident.

Couples rarely seek counseling or coaching when things are going well. Which to an extent isn’t odd? In some ways, it seems that society has pushed people to seek help when problems are present. Versus when things are going well.

A creative way to improve your relationship is by taking action through the process consciously focusing on what’s working. This process directly helps to build trust, confidence, and overall happiness in the relationship.

Ways to do this include:

• Each day spends time sharing with your partner how appreciative you are of them. Try to be specific to highlight what you are appreciative of.
• Leave your partner notes that highlight what you love about them or how they help you grow into your best version.
• Take time to complement each other. This can take place by complimenting appearance or even positive gestures.

 

12. Practice Healthy Sex Talk

Sex is often a taboo topic for some people. This can extend to childhood experiences or a simple lack of education and awareness over the topic. There are certainly other reasons why people may struggle to have healthy sex practices in their relationship.

Below are ways to improve how sex impacts your relationship:

Once a month purchase a new sex toy. Each month switch who gets to choose the sex toy. The goal is to explore and understand each other. Learn which toys turn your partner on. Or which toys build curiosity. The more you get to know each other the closer you’ll feel to the other person. During this process work to practice respecting each other, not judging the other person, practicing vulnerability, eliminating shame, respecting boundaries, and practicing patience with each other.

See a sex therapist. Yes, there are therapist that specializes in the topic of sex. Schedule a few sessions as a way to open the door to further dialogue and understand of the topic.

Engage in conversation connected to sex in the same way you would with food. I’ll keep this simple and to the point. Think about a lunch date with your partner that took place at noon. Around 5 PM, you and your partner are at home enjoying a conversation. During the conversation, the following questions take place:

 

• Did you enjoy your lunch?
• What was your favorite part of lunch?
• Would you have gotten something else instead?
• Did you feel that I was present with you during lunch?

 

Now let’s move some words around and focus on sex.

Imagine that you engaged in a sexual act with your partner at noon. Later in the evening, you sit down with your partner, and the following questions are asked:

• Did you enjoy sex?
• What was your favorite part during sex?
• Would you have wanted to try a different position?
• Did you feel that I was present with you during sex?

Engaging in this conversation can be difficult. Yet, the process creates transformational change on an individual level as well as to the health of the relationship. If you feel stuck, try working with a counselor or coach.

 

13. Evaluate The Level of Tolerance.

People often have a high level of tolerance when there are mutual trust and respect in the relationship. For a moment, think about your life and relationship. Consider your level of tolerance in the relationship. Meaning, how tolerant you are of your partner today versus at different points.

Consider the case study example below to understand how tolerance impacts relationships.

Jason and Scott for the last three months have struggled to heal from an incident that took place. Scott did something that hurt Jason. Scott raised his voice in public towards Jason. The incident made Jason feel embarrassed and hurt due to Scott knowing how public incidents like that make him feel. Since that day, Jason has been distant from Scott. During a couple’s session, Scott and Jason each opened up and shared their peace with the other. Yet, Jason continued to remain distant from Scott. The therapist asked Jason how likely he is to be on edge or easily frustrated with Scott. Jason replied very likely. The therapist asked Jason, why do you think that you are short-tempered with Jason. Jason shared that he has not yet healed from the experience and has his defensive walls up which is why he is on edge and easily frustrated with Scott.

In the case example above, we can notice that the incident led to defensive walls going up. The defensive walls directly impact a person’s level of tolerance. In the case above, Jason experienced hurt. The emotional pain led to him growing distant and defensive which directly impacted his level of tolerance towards his partner Scott.

To improve your relationship, take time to explore your level of tolerance towards your partner. When doing so, take time to explore thoughts and feelings together. Explore why you have the level of tolerance that you have. Identify what increases or decreases tolerance. For instance, conflict can hurt tolerance while having a positive date with your partner can improve tolerance. An additional resource to support with addressing conflict in relationships can be found by clicking here. It’s a YouTube video walking you through conflict resolution.

 

14. Don’t Stop Dating.

Not too long ago I was at home watching a documentary on birds. It was really interesting. During one particular scene, the focus was on mating. The male birds would dance and bounce around in such a beautiful way. The focus of the course was on mating. The birds would do beautiful movements showing their colors and desire for the other bird.

To me what was taking place was something similar to dating. When people date, they take time to show up for the other person.

Consider the first dates you had with your partner. You show up, right? You attended and participated in the date. Ask them questions and practiced the act of being present.

When people date, they are showing an investment in attention and time. The opposite happens when dates are not taking place.

In the show that I was watching with the birds, I thought to myself. What would happen if the bird didn’t show up and do the dances? Well in the world of birds, it would have led to that particular bird not finding a mate and thus closing the door to future baby birds that would link to that bird.

In your relationship, what happens if dating doesn’t take place? Nothing good correct. The book, Making Your Relationship Work, provides further strategies connected to dating and other areas aimed to improve your relationship. CLICK HERE to check it out.

Common ways dating improves relationships include:

• Dating helps you practice the love language of quality time.
• Dating helps you find space to address challenges and highlight what’s working.
• Dating helps you connect emotionally to your partner.

 

When dates are not taking place couples may experience the following negative shifts:

• You feel distant from your partner.
• You feel lower on the priority list.
• You feel disconnected from your partner.
• You feel that there is a lack of communication taking place.
• You feel that quality time isn’t taking place.

 

15. Know Your Love Languages.

Gary Chapman developed the 5 love languages. He has a quiz and an entire book about it, which I strongly recommend as a resource. The emphasis of the book is to educate readers on the 5 five languages.

Each person has a unique love language that often connects to their life story. The five love languages include:

• Quality time
• Gifts
• Physical touch
• Words of affirmation
• Acts of Kindness

 

The quiz is below. Each can take it to identify what their love language is. Once you identify the love language, take time to practice it daily for the next 7 days. As each day moves forward, evaluate progress.

The goal is to use this exercise to explore and improve the relationship.

 .https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

 

16. Allow Space for Your Partner

Space is a beautiful gift to give to a person

After an argument, what takes place?

People will often say things that they don’t mean. I hate you; I can’t stand you, I want a divorce, don’t speak to me, you’re an idiot, …

It’s essential to visualize and think about how you want to react and what you want to say. The more time we give ourselves to practice visualization, the more effective we will be. Plus, it is crucial for you and your spouse to have your process.

Next time something goes down take time to practice this simple strategy. Give each other space. A period of 20 minutes to think and remove yourself from the situation at hand. During the 20 minutes take time to breathe, explore how feel and how you want to present yourself during the upcoming interaction. Explore how you want to treat your partner. Lastly, focus on the issue versus the person.

 

17. Navigating Healthy Communication

When engaging in challenging conversation it’s common to feel overwhelmed, stressed, and with a mixture of emotions. This is due to the process of sharing thoughts that hold emotional weight.

As you find space to communicate with each other take time to highlight the importance of the healthy space you are giving each other. Such as the space of being able to communicate how you feel and to be heard. Even if the conversation doesn’t lead to an exact solution.

The overall process of having space to share thoughts and feeling over timeline helps couples feel vulnerable with each other and not walk on eggshells.

Example conversation:

Partner A: Are you comfortable if we take time to talk about our relationship? My goal is for us to find a space of healing and growth.

Partner B: Yes.

 

Partner A: My goal is to be in a relationship where I feel heard and loved. I want you to feel the same. In our relationship, there are times that I try to speak to you, and it feels like you don’t care or are interested in what I’m saying. This makes me feel inadequate like I don’t matter. When I’ve tried to talk to you, I hear things like I should just be happy.

Partner B: I’m sorry and I want to thank you for being open to share this with me. I know that words may not heal or even help. I want to be here with you and learn how we can get to a space that we feel heard and loved. I’m sorry for not giving you space to speak. For not making you a priority or our relationship.

 

Partner A: thank you for hearing me and sitting with me.

To help couples connect, they can lean on the journal found HERE. The journal gives each person space to share their thoughts and feelings daily. This is a beautiful way to connect with your partner without feeling the pressure. CLICK the image below to check out the journal.

18. Practice Forgiveness to Improve Relationship Tension

It seems only right that people have their unique version of what forgiveness means. To some it’s connected to letting go. While for others it has more to do with acceptance. I like to think about forgiveness as a process that sets you free.

Let’s take the case of Derek and Alex. Two years they visited my office due to an affair taking place. Session by session, they went through the process of healing and recovery. During the period of the sessions, one common theme continued. The struggle to be free.

Derek shared that before the cheating, he didn’t feel jealousy. He shared that he often spends his days thinking about what Alex is doing. He shared that he hates that his mind goes to those types of thoughts. He shared during a meeting that he wants to be able to simply go through a workday without feeling nervous.

 The struggle that Derek was experiencing is a common one. Often cheating can become a trauma of its own leaving those connected to it in a state of utter shock. One strategy that Derek can take to set himself free. To allow himself to practice forgiveness as a way to live his best life is using the steps below.

Step 1. Start with creating a definition of forgiveness. If you get stuck go to the internet. Sites like Pinterest have ample quotes that can provide support. The goal is simply to create a definition that you connect with.

Step 2. Take time to explore the following. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you agree with what took place. It does not mean that you welcome a similar experience. It does not mean that you will accept the person you are forgiving to continue their behaviors. Forgiveness can be a process of accepting what took place and creating a clear boundary to what needs to take place to move forward.

Step 3. What needs to take place. This is often a big question that needs time devoted to it.  In step 3, take time to work on shifts in behaviors. For instance, a shift can be that you remove the need to set a GPS on the phone as a way to build security. Or that both parties engage in therapy for some time. Or that behaviors such as stonewalling shift to practicing open conversation. These shifts directly work to build trust, commitment, and support with the process of forgiveness.

Step 4. This is one of the most important steps. At the end of the day, you are here because you want to live your best life. With that being said, consider how not having forgiveness in your life is creating hurt. The term hurt can be connected to slowing you down, increasing negative thoughts, increasing thoughts connected to insecurity, and other negative shifts that you do not desire. The goal with this step is to set yourself free by taking time to identify what is holding you back.

 

If you are healing from an affair and are ready to rebuild your relationship and life, I want to encourage you to read the book: Re-Building Us. Click Here to purchase your copy.

 

19. Doors That Lead to Connection or Disconnection

I once worked with a couple who pushed me to hit the books even harder. Session after session, I could not understand why growth wasn’t taking place.

The couple was engaging in relationship strategies that aimed to build trust, commitment, and mutual support. They showed up to each session. They did the homework.

Yet, session after session disconnect was present.

I found myself reading books related to marriage, researching studies connected to personality, relationship growth, building habits, and so forth. I felt stuck.

Around the 3^rd visit, I found myself reviewing my notes and had one of those moments. I guess they’re called light bulb moments. It was right in front of me.

I thought to myself this very thought. Everything that I was throwing at them wasn’t getting through. There was a wall or a door that was closed. And to me that made sense. Maybe it does to you.

Have you ever been so frustrated or emotionally disconnected from someone that no matter what they did, you remained unaffected? I like to imagine it as a door. Just like the door to your home. The big door that once opened allows others to come into your home. Your private sanctuary.  

The next session, I brought this up with them. I shared my process of thinking and what led me to the conclusion that the door was closed.

They agreed. One of them in particular shared that they have felt like that for some time. Throughout the next sessions, we dove deep into understanding how the doors closed and created a process for opening them back up.

In your relationship, do you have doors that are closed?

There can be many doors. For some, the door may be connected to sex. The person may find that they are not willing to have with their partner because of certain reasons. While for others the door is labeled with deep conversation. The person may feel uneasy or simply struggle to be vulnerable and share their thoughts and feelings due to certain past circumstances.

Overall, the goal is to understand, heal, and create a process for recovery.

 

Below are questions to explore aimed at supporting you in your process of identifying the doors and creating a process for healing and recovery.

• What took place early in the relationship to open the door(s)?
• What took place in the relationship that closed the door(s)? Consider small and large actions.
• What took place before the relationship to impact how the door(s) open or close?
• How do you define your door? Think about the examples above.

 

20. Try Therapy

You read the header correctly, try therapy and see what happens. When you go to therapy, you are in theory allowing someone else who is an expert in their area to share some insight. By no means does this mean that you have to take on the recommendations. The therapist may simply share that what you are doing is great and to keep it going.

When you go to therapy here are some benefits:

• You can gain creative ideas to nurture your relationship.
• You can learn other ways to get to know your partner outside of the process you have been taking. For instance, if you engage in activities as a way to get to know your partner. This is great. No change is needed. The therapist may simply suggest adding deep emotional conversation and provide you with a clear system of how to do it. As a couple, you can try it out and see how it supports your relationship.
• You can build healthy habits while addressing unhealthy ones. One of the ways to improve a relationship is to do personal work. The process of working with a therapist can allow you to focus on the habits that are supporting your life while shifting those that are not. Therapy can help you develop systems that make it just a little bit easier to implement and sustain healthy habits. At the end of the day, the work you do here directly strengthens the relationship.

 

Again, you do not have to try therapy. I simply share this to provide reasons why going to therapy can be beneficial.

If you are interested in working with Santos Counseling PLLC, we would love to support you. Take a look at our counselors to see who is a good fit for you.

 

21. Build Education and Knowledge to Level up Your Relationship

• Do you listen to podcasts?
• Do you read books?
• Do you read magazines?

What is your process of taking in information?

When working with couples, I do my best to nudge them in the direction of growth and understanding. At times its books that I recommend or podcast to listen to. The goal is very simple, to simply put yourself in a space and grow.

Below are resources aimed to support your relationship. Some are readings while others are audio and visual.

Supportive podcast episodes aimed to improve your relationship:

• Letting Go Inside Of Your Relationship
• How To Deal With Insecurities In Your Relationship
• Shame and Fear In Your Relationship
• How To Build More Trust In You’re Relationship

Supportive reads aimed to improve your relationship:

• Getting Along With Family During The Holidays
• Laugh and Smile More
• Re-Building Us: A Guide To Healing After An Affair
• Couples Workbook: Making Your Relationship Work

 

Affair Recovery:

CLICK HERE to check out the Re-Building Us Affair Recovery Workbook.

Infidelity is one of the leading causes of divorce and can be a devastating experience.

This workbook gives you and your partner a system of accountability aimed to help you move through each stage of healing after an affair. You will come together to talk about the root of why it took place, learn what challenges in the relationship or individuals connected to the affair, heal together, and rebuilding a lasting relationship.

This workbook is interactive in nature as it holds you and your partner responsible for completing each page. Together you will take on the journey of healing and recovering. Page by page, you will uncover the stages of infidelity and give birth to a loving and compassionate relationship.

Here’s what the book can offer you:

Learn how to understand the phases of infidelity.
Understand the root cause of the affair.
Rebuild your relationship.
Restore trust.
Work through conflicting emotions.
Experience vulnerability.

Relationship Course for Men:

• Helping Men Become Better Husbands: Relationship Success For Men

 

Premarital course for couples soon to be married:

For couples that are planning to get married and want to ensure that they have the tools needed to lay out the foundation for a successful marriage.

• Click Here to purchase the Marriage Preparation Course

Another resource is the premarital workbook is a great resource for couples who are seriously dating or engaged. As a team, you are able to use the workbook together. Each page gives you education on the key pillars that builds a successful relationship. Together you are able to practice using strategies that strengthen the relationship and teach you how to navigate challenges in the relationship that are currently taking place and may take place in the future. CLICK HERE to check out the premarital workbook.

 

Relationship Course For Couples With Kids

Helping couples with kids improve their relationship and parenthood. This course is designed for couples with kids who are having problems and seeking to improve their relationship.

• Click Here to purchase the relationship course for couples with kids that feel stuck and desire to feel deeply connected.

 

Conflict Resolution Course

This course is for couples that are fighting, arguing, and hurting each other and who are finally ready to make a change for the better. The course teaches you how to argue and engage in conflict constructively. At the end of the day, you are two different people. Let me teach you how to argue together versus in a way that breaks each other down.

• Click Here to purchase the course

 

22. Evaluating the Impact of Culture 

Culture can be the difference in skin tone. It can be your primary language or the manner in which you grew up. When it comes to relationship building, the process of taking time to understand culture is vital.

Consider a couple that come from two different places. One grew up in a household as an only child. The other the complete opposite. One was raised by a single hard-working parent. The other had two present parents that argued louder than the music aimed to block the noise.

When working with couples, I encourage them to take time to explore the conversation connected to culture. The goal can start with that of a simple conversation. Share your upbringing and how it has impacted your life and the relationship. As a helpful resource, check out Challenges and Triumphs To A Interracial Relationship.

 

My friends, you have endless opportunities available to build the relationship of your dreams. The first step is the last. Show up and do the work. Show up for the person that you love. Work hard for the person that love.

 

I hope that you found this reading helpful in healing and improving your relationship.