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Relationship Tips | 7 expert tips to a lasting relationship

  1. Do activities together: Couples who play together tend to stay together. The reason is simple, you and your partner create new experiences. The goal is to find an activity that you both mutually will enjoy: camping, tennis, swimming, golf, simply something that you two will have fun with.Greensboro counseling and mental health services 3367071723

  2. Be spontaneous: Create new experiences by breaking the old fashion routine. If you always go to the same dinner on Sunday mornings – break the routine. Try somewhere new and unfamiliar. New places builds a sense of satisfactions in your relationship and individual mindsets that the relationship is fresh, juicy and new.

  3. Create code words: Every relationship should have a code word for conflict disengagement. Fights, arguments and conflict are often what break relationships. By creating a code that represents “STOP – lets wait until we are calm and level headed to discuss the topic in a healthy manner”. This strategy directly prevents you or your spouse from saying nasty negative comments to each other and in turn creating a system of respect and growth.

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  5. Communication: Don’t ever stop talking with each other. Always ask each other questions like: “how was your day?”; “when you did _____ it hurt my feelings”; “when you did _____ it made me feel”; “I do not like when you do _____. I would prefer for you to do _______ because it would make me feel ____”. Communication is your one tool that will always open new doors and in essence spark your relationship.

  6. Ask for healthy change: If you notice that your spouse is doing something that is hurting your feelings, bring it to their attention. If you noticed that your spouse no longer calls you as they once did in the beginning of the relationship, remind them and ask them to do the things you like. Their is absolutely nothing wrong with educating your spouse on healthy changes that will build a stronger relationship.

  7. Give each other space: It is important for you and your spouse to have your personal ventures. Give each other space to go out “guys night out” or “girls night out”. What normally takes place is that the distance created brings you back even closer. You leave to spend time with your friends while gone, you often wish to escape to your spouse. In addition, the time spent with your friends provides time to release stress.

  8. Talk about your problems: Spending time discussing conflict or problemcouples counseling, couples counselor greensboro, marriage counseling, marriage counselor, counselor greensboro, greensboro counseling helps in a manner that truly dives into (a) how each of you felt (b) what each of you wished would have happened and how you would do it again (c) what went wrong. Remember just because you end a problem with a “sorry” does not mean it is resolved. Sometimes you truly have to dive into the conflict and invest on the opportunity of growth. The conflict may lead to solving future conflicts and in turn creating a stronger healthier connection between you and your partner.


Word of advice: most relationships are not your Disney fairy tale. They are complicated and take work. The fairy part of the relationship is that the work you overcome transitions into powerful memories that strengthen your relationship.

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